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“Developing Effective Communication in the Marital Relationship”

Abstract

According to research a couple’s ability to communicate with one another is the single most important contributor to a happy stable and satisfying marriage. According to the current divorce statistics, 50% of marriages end in divorce due to the lack of communication skills and or poor problem solving skills. When communication dissolves between husband and wife, the marital relationship also dissolves. It is vital for couples to ascertain the necessary skills that promote healthy and effective communication. The following paper will outline the interviewed couple’s problems with communication, provide current statistic of married couples who struggle with effective communication, reasons that contribute towards poor communication in marital relationships, and helpful techniques, actions and treatments that are helpful in fostering strong heathy communication between husband and wife.
Keywords: marriage, communication, active listening, techniques

Introduction
After conducting a thorough interview with the Meredith’s, a middle aged married couple, the major problem that was noticed was there inability to effectively communicate in a healthy and respectful manner. The particular area of communication that the couple struggles with involves active listening and nonverbal gestures. Both husband and wife lack the ability to attentively listen to what one another is really saying to each other. While engaging in a serious discussion, each spouse has the need to get their point across at the same time, when this occurs neither one is actively listening to the other. Also noticed while the Meredith’s were engaged in a discussion, within a matter of minutes the conversation became exacerbated and totally taken out of context. As a result, their communication became convoluted therefore…...

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