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The Importance of a Father – Son Relationship

The relationship between a father and a son can be expressed as perhaps the most important relationship that a man endures in his lifetime. This is the relationship that influences a man and all other relationships that a man has throughout his life. A strong father figure is important for a man to be able to mature into a man of strong character and a respectable citizen. In Arthur Millers, “Death of a Salesman”, the relationship between Willy and Biff is the example of a father and son relationship that is presented. Not having a strong father figure himself, Willy struggles with his character and that ultimately leads to a rift in his relationship with Biff and his neglect of Happy. Strong fathers play important roles in the lives of their sons and this is seen not only in literature, but also throughout history and in the world today. In “Death of a Salesman”, Willy’s non-existent relationship with his father and ideas of an American dream and what Willy wishes out of life, cause mass amounts of friction between him and his sons. It is evident in not only, “Death of a Salesman”, but in real life examples how having a strong father figure is important in fully developing into a man. Willy’s father left when he was young, and Willy describes this moment as, “…well, Dad left when I was such a baby and I never had a chance to talk to him and I still feel—kind of temporary about myself.” (Pg. 51) With that statement an inference can be made that Willy longed for a relationship with his father. His choice of words that he felt, “kind of temporary about myself” showed that something was amiss in Willy’s life and what he felt about himself. Not having his father around, Willy heard everything he knew about his father from his older brother Ben. Willy constantly has day dreams in which he remembers…...

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