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Jade Rice
MBA 525
Professional Development
May 9, 2010

Assertiveness To be assertive is to have the ability to express your point of view, your thoughts, feelings, and wants while keeping the rights of others in mind. Being assertive is a balance; in other words, one can achieve the goal without hurting others. An assertive person learns which reaction to choose, whether it be acting non-assertively, assertive, or aggressive on a case by case basis. However, acting assertively is not always the best choice in achieving the best possible outcome. The assertive person has to have that ability to stop and think what is in his or her best interest and the interest of those around them before they act. There is a strong sense of self-confidence with an assertive person. Self-confidence is an important quality to have both personally and professionally. Assertiveness builds leadership because having self-confidence has a positive effect on people. Having a strong leadership foundation can strengthen all aspects of your life.
The people around you will see you as an assertive person that can be trusted and well respected. They will go to you with their thoughts because they can trust your opinions. By demonstrating assertiveness they have seen first hand that you have the ability to be fair. This will also help with building personal relationships and achieving more beneficial experiences in social situations. Being assertive is an on going process since you always have to be prepared for whatever situations may arise. Again, it comes to having a proper balance of knowing when to stand up for yourself and when to let the little things slide. After all, even assertive people will act non-assertively if they are not comfortable in their surroundings. I believe a lot of this stems from the fact that assertive people are trying…...

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