Advice for Lovers

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Running Head: LETTER of ADVICE

Advice for a New Couple
Jean VanDyke
COM: 200 Interpersonal Communication
Teresa Plummer
September 16, 2013

Dear Nora and Lou,
How to talk to an engaged couple
If they were real close friends and I knew that what I would say to them would make them listen and hear me, this is what I would tell them.
Identify the barriers to effective interpersonal interactions. If you do not talk about the things that are important to you at the beginning of your relationship, you will find yourself starting to resent the other person. Most people will just go along with what the other person wants to do or says until all at once they just explode. Then it is usually too late, and the words cannot be taken back. If you refuse to communicate or just keep quiet about what is bothering you, it will definitely hurt your lasting relationship. Playing games with each other is also not the way to go. If you are going to commit to each other, then by all means be only with that person. So many people will tell the person that they love them and only want to be with them, and then something happens that makes one or the other mad, and the next thing you know one or both of them are out with someone else. This is not the way to communicate. More than likely there will never be the trust they once had.
There are three reasons why there is trouble in any relationship:” (1) silence or refusing to communicate; (2) placating, which means to soothe or calm someone by being nice or by giving in to demands; and (3) playing games”. Any and all of these play a very important part in our interpersonal lives. In order to have an understanding of what is going on around us, people need to pay closer attention to what is going on around them. Chapter 9.1.
Assess their personal communications and improve their communication…...

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